Don’t force yourself to change in order for people to like you.

Don't force yourself to change in order for people to like you.
Don’t force yourself to change in order for people to like you.

A frequently asked question on my workshops; “Why should I change?” My answer is always that I recommend never changing yourself to please others and only change yourself when things stand in the way of achieving your goals.

When social media made its introduction, we have started to look more and more at each other and we sometimes try to change ourselves to become a person we are not because we think we will be noticed more by others. Ending up in such a situation just creates stress for us and is not beneficial.

I use only a few social media and are most active on Instagram following a recommendation by one of the regular participants in my meditation classes. I would get my meditation classes in Norway full with an Instagram account he said. As a result, it has not attracted more people to the meditation classes and courses in Norway. But more and more attention from outside Norway.

Should I change my Norwegian workshops to attract more Norwegian participants? The answer is no. Because I still feel flow in my life in regards to the international courses and classes. I know that transformational meditation goes too deep for many Norwegians who are more concerned with relaxing than to gain freedom and control over their lives. I, therefore, attract only those I call for the toughest boys and girls in the country. Those who aim to achieve total control over and freedom in their lives.

These people inspire me and my goal is to help them as good as I can with my knowledge and experience of meditation techniques that have turned my world upside down in a fantastic way. 

Love & Light – Seb

Are you afraid to heal?

Are you afraid to heal?
Many people are afraid to heal because their entire identity is centred around the trauma they’ve experienced. To not know who you are outside of trauma can be terrifying.

Each time you say, “I am ….” you create and strengthen your identity. Have you experienced a trauma that caused you to become more anxious and are you telling yourself and others that you are an anxious person, then this becomes your anxious personality and your identity. And every time you tell yourself you are an anxious person, you reinforce your identity

You know deep inside you that you do not want to be an anxious person and you want to get rid of the unpleasant emotions and experiences that come with it. This means that you must change one or more personality traits and thus your identity and this is scary in itself. Because what’s happening to you when you’re not the person everyone around you identifies you with? Transformational Meditation is a tool that is highly effective in creating such changes in a liberating manner.

Love & Light – Seb